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The Best Legacy We Can Give

Life is like ocean. First wave will be overrolled by second and second will be overlapped by third and so on. What I want to talk on this post right now is what is the best legacy we can give to our children. Every parents love their children, worry and try their best to make their children's future to be easier and better than themselves'.

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On the time I write this blog post, I am not a father yet. So what I want to share here is my opinion as a son. We, as a human, tend to follow our parents' steps.

My parents prepare me to take their business. They have networks on their field, they have loyal customers, and they also have simple (I called it simple because it is still traditional and unrefined) administration system. Yes, all I need to make it run is already there.

I appreciate it, yes I really do. But here are the problems :

1. Economy and Resources' Problems.

Economy conditions keep changing. Our business needs to adapt to it. Business our parents made needs to be changed according to economy conditions.

But it is easier to be said than be done. System which is built for years is not something easily changed, but still not impossible.

And human resources' problems too. Working Force are changing too. Their interests and skills differ from previous generations. Job descriptions which interest working force nowadays are different too. That means we need to change our business' processes.

2. I am neither My Father nor My Mother.

This is the biggest mistake parents make. They tend to push their legacy to their children. Their business was built and designed by them to FIT them well.

I am neither my father nor my mother. How can it fit me? It is like I am forced to wear a set of clothes which its size and model is UNFIT my body.

What my parents think is easy doesn't mean it will be easy for me, and vice versa.

So, here is my idea. From problems I described above, what we can give to our children is :

Fishing Rod and How to Fish on Their Own Boat


I repeat it again : "Fishing rod and how to fish on their own boat". That means we should prepare our children to be able make what they are made of, not what we think is the best for them on our virtual reality.

A lot of parents dream their children become a great musician. What about their interests? Do they have talents on music? Yes, talents are overrated, but do they like or at least inspired by music? If not, do they grow if you insist them to do that? The answer is NO. That will waste their time and will not produce any fruit.

We need to make an environment which boost our children's growth. When we see Bill Gates, we see Steve Jobs, we see Zinedine Zidane, we see Sergey Brin.... They got the best environments to grow their skills and talents. Malcolm Gladwell, in his Outlier book, analyze and conclude that environments they were grown up really give them great advantages to their success.

So, what kind of fishing rod you can give to your children on their life boat? Share it on comments.

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