In order to lift your life to greatness or just make it better, you need to "upgrade" your communication skills.
A lot of things happen around you is depend to others. You sell things to others, you finish big project by collaborating with others, you have more fun if you go out with others, you build a family with others (obviously 😁), etc. Almost everything on life, you communicate with other human being.
That is why it is important. Don't ever think that you can survive being alone, at least if you want to live a good life, you can't. So I suggest that give yourself time to socialize.
Here is 5 steps to be a better communicator, so you can elevate every aspects of your life :
#1 - Overcome Fear of Anti Socializing
This first step is only for someone who is anti social type guy / girl. Believe me, I was a shy and anti social type guy. Back then, I always had this strange feeling when I met with other human being who isn't a member of my family.
I feared if my words I spoke will upset others, I feared to be rejected by what I did, I often kept my actions in check so I would not embarass myself. I feared to be hurt by others. But it was a past now.
Just express yourself aloud, whatever you want to say just say it loud. That is all you need to do, don't keep every idea only in yourself, get it out.
Of course, it is hard for first time, everything is hard on first, but with practice you can improve.
#2 - Be a Good Listener
Before you talk too much, you must become a good listener first. Give your undivided attention to your conversation mate, get your eyes meet with his / hers (because eyes are windows of human's soul, human's feeling are all expressed in their eyes).
If you feel uncomfortable to see their eyes, you can see their neck or nose or whatever near the eyes. Occassionaly, divert your eyes to other places, because it will frighten them if you just fix it only on their eyes like lunatic.
All of those are for showing your respect and give impression that "here I am, I want to have serious conversation with you" to them. So they will feel more comfortable with you and will be more open to you.
#3 - Express Yourself with Polite Words
No matter whatever you want to talk about / express, you must use carefully thought words. When you just blurt out bad words, people will defend themselves, it's our human's nature. On that condition, people will shut down themselves and refuse everything you say (except people with stubborn bornt gene, there is no other way to talk out this type guy, whatever you say polite or not will not budge them, really).
#4 - Delay Your Disagreement
Disagreement happens a lot on conversation. When that happens, don't say "no" or "disagree" immediately. You can soft your disagreement by saying "Yes, that is cool, but....." or "Hmmm. Maybe I think it is should....".
That way, they will feel less hostility from you. So they still can accept what you say. Of course, it also doesn't work to stubborn bornt gene type guys.
#5 - Stay Humble
You really really must not talk about your greaaattnesss. That will be annoying. People do not care about your success story, except they ask you to tell them. If you are so great, people will know even when you don't even talk about it. They know your level from how you act, what words you use on your sentences, and how you care about them.
So stay humble. People will love you, and you become an awesome communicator.
I hope if you practice these steps, you can boost your sales, help to get your colleagues' attention and make a better relationship with your loved ones.
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