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3 Things You Should Avoid In Your Life

On this blog post, I will share what I have learnt recently and I think these will be valuable to others too.

Just as title say, 3 things we, as humans, should avoid. Because it will be wasting your time and life.

1. Worrying Too Much.

Worrying will make you feel uncomfortable. Especially, worry on "unresolveable" or "uncontrollable" problems. That's useless.

When you are worried, your body will be constantly tense and make you tired faster, eventually you will get sick. It is not just make you suffered, but also cannot solve your problems.

I didn't say that worry is bad. Worry occured because there is something that isn't right in our life. Take it as a sign, don't dwell on it, I think we better use our time to think of solutions for the problems than worrying, if it is "unresolveable" by yourself, ask others' help, but if that doesn't work either, just let it be.

From my experience, there are a lot of problems have their "expire date" like foods. When it is expired, it doesn't matter anymore even if it hasn't been resolved at all.

Life needs to move on. So stop worrying too much.

2. Complain and Blame Others.

These are useless too. Complain when something wrong happen to life will not solve problems either. Complain about your condition is a passive action. If you don't like it, try to change yourself, your life is reflection of yourself.

Blame others will make another problem by itself. There are a lot of conflicts happen because people blame others and make the initial problem even bigger.

3. Compare Ourselves With Others.

There is a couple who just moved to Australia. They bought a big house with 3 rooms and a big dining room. They lived happily and satisfied with it. Later, they attended a friend's party, looked at a gorgeous house of friend's.

After they got home, they felt their house was too small. And unhappy about it, they worked 2-3 jobs in order to buy a bigger house.

Will they get happiness which they pursue of? I don't think so. It will repeat and repeat again. Dissatisfied and unhappy, as long as they compare themselves with others.

Happiness come from our inner self, from our heart. It doesn't come from comparing with others or "winning" from others.

Be happy, stop worrying, and appreciate your life. You know what, there are people out there who doesn't have what you have, vice versa. So....... Enjoy it. ☺
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